"I can still remember many of the bits that these guys performed over the years. It is radio and television personalities like John Garry (and Larry O'Brien) that become such a rich part of the communities in which they worked."
Carl Erskine
Family and friends said good-bye this past Monday morning to my mother-in-law, Yvonne, who died on April 11 at the grand age of 92, even though she told everyone that she was 90. Of course, I only met Yvonne about two and a half years ago, so I have had no long history with her, and that, based on everything that we saw and heard over the last several days and during the ritual of the viewing and funeral, is my loss, for what a legacy she leaves.
She and her husband Chuck had three children, Kurt, Susan, and Linda. She had six grandchildren and twenty (20!) great grandchildren, who all knew her as "Grandma Bonnie", but it seems that she was Grandma Bonnie to just about everyone who came into the spheres of her and her children. The viewing was filled with friends of Kurt, Sue, and Linda who all came to say good-bye to Grandma. A little boy who lived on her street once took her to show-and-tell when he was in first grade, and he made sure that she went with him to the premier of one of the Star Wars movies. That same little boy, now 15 years old, did one of the readings at her funeral Mass on Monday.
My memories of Yvonne will be of nickel poker games and showing her how to play black jack on my FanDuel phone app, after which she asked Linda if she could get that "FanDuel thing" on her phone. (That never happened, btw.) I also loved hearing her stories about the days when she and her husband would follow the Pittsburgh Hornets at the old Duquesne Gardens.
So we begin to move on. Losing a parent, regardless of how long that they have been with us, is never easy, but our parents never really leave us, do they? They live on in the memories that they leave to us, and the values that they have instilled in us. That becomes a parent's greatest legacy.
RIP Grandma Bonnie.
I don't write a lot about the Royal Family of Great Britain because, frankly, I view the Monarchy as an anachronism of immense proportions, and, outside of watching a well done soap opera like "The Crown", who really cares about this family, which over the last century or so, has brought whole new meaning to the term "dysfunctional family"?
As such, I was vaguely aware that the Princess of Wales had recently undergone abdominal surgery, and then seemed to disappear from sight. I did, however, like most other people, see the video that the Princess recently made announcing to the world that during the course of this rather serious surgery, cancer was discovered, and that she is now undergoing chemotherapy for treatment of the disease.
As person who lost his wife to cancer almost three years ago, after she had battled the disease for almost five years, and after she had undergone chemo and and other treatments for the disease over the course of her illness, watching this video of the Princess was almost personal to me. It brought up lots of bad memories, and it made me feel a great deal of sympathy for Katherine. I could almost see the feelings and emotions that had to be roiling within her. Why did she need to make such a deeply personal announcement for all of the world to see?
I suppose that since she is the wife of the guy who will one day become King justifies it. Also, perhaps the Princess wishes to serve as a role model others similarly afflicted.
But if you can justify this public announcement on those bases, there is one other question that needs to be answered:
WHY WASN'T HER PRIG OF A HUSBAND SITTING ALONG SIDE HER AS SHE MADE THIS ANNOUNCEMENT?
You can give me all of the British "stiff upper lip" bullshit you want, but this is inexcusable. I have been that husband, and throughout the whole ordeal, the only place I ever wanted to be was by Marilyn's side.
Count me among the many who shall be rooting for Katherine to come through and survive this awful ordeal.
I have finally finished watching three different streaming series on the boob tube, and here is what I have to say about them.
Feud: Capote vs. The Swans (Hulu)
Tom Hollender, like Phillip Seymour Hoffman before him, plays Capote to a T with the high pitched voice, fey mannerisms, and outlandish clothes. It was the cast that comprised the Swans that intrigued me about this show: Naomi Watts, Diane Lane, Chloe Sevigny, Calista Flockhart, and former brat packers Demi Moore and Molly Ringwald. Among the six swans, Watts, Lane, and Sevigny get most of the screen time in this eight part series. Ringwald, of "Sixteen Candles" fame and who is now, believe it or not, 56 years old, was the one that I was most anxious to see. Alas and alack, she was prominent in only two of the episodes and was barely recognizable, to me, at least.
One of the main plot points was Capote's struggle to produce what he felt was gong to be his masterpiece, a novel called "Answered Prayers" which would expand upon the Esquire piece and bring further humiliation to the high society grande dames. Capote may or may not have finished Answered Prayers. There are legends that he did finish and then destroyed it. Capote himself once stated that he locked it away in a locker in the Los Angeles bus station. Whatever happened, the completed version of the novel was never found amongst the papers and files of Truman Capote, who died in 1984 at the age of 59.
A version of Answered Prayers was published. It was only 150 pages long, and consisted of three parts, one of which was the complete article that appeared in that long ago Esquire magazine story. I bought a copy of it and read it, but I didn't really like it at all. I also bought a copy of Capote's true masterpiece, In Cold Blood. I read that book over fifty years ago when I was in high school, and I can't wait to read it again, as I now have over fifty years of life experience and, I hope, maturity, under my belt, but more on that after I do read it once again.
The show is lavish and stylish, well written and acted, and delightfully trashy. It gets Three Stars from The Grandstander.
TED (Peacock)
Well, now Ted is a TV series from Peacock. It is set 1993, and Ted lives with a Boston family that includes his best buddy, sixteen year old high schooler, John, John's parents, and his cousin Blair, who is living with the family as she attends college in the area.
"Family Guy" is a series that you are almost embarrassed to tell people that you watch. It has crude humor, which include lots of flatulence jokes. It has almost no social value and much of it is very bad taste, but it is also hilarious. Well, "Ted" is all of that and then some. As it is not on network over-the-air television, MacFarlane doesn't let out any stops when it comes to "adult" language and humor.
Season One consists of seven episodes. It is rude, crude, often tasteless, but you will also find yourself laughing constantly and loudly.
Two Stars from The Grandstander.
True Detective: Night Country (HBO Max)
Three episodes in I was saying to myself "Gee, I hope that this picks up soon." It took me three separate sittings to get through Episode Four, and when it was over I was saying "Well, I've put this much time into it, so I guess I'll watch the final two episode." It took two sittings to watch Episode Five, and today I made myself plow through the sixth and final episode.
What a convoluted slog of a series. I couldn't keep track of the various plot lines, probably because I didn't care all that much. And that final episode! (ATTN: Spoiler Alerts to come right here) Foster and her partner (Kali Reis) enter an ice cave all by themselves, with no back ups. This defies all credulity insofar as correct police work goes. Foster falls through the ice and into the ocean, but somehow survives. We are forced to believe that ghosts from beyond have dogged Reis throughout the series are now visiting Foster, too. And the central mystery - what happened to the crew at the Tsalal Research Station - seems to get solved, not from out of left field, but from out of the bullpen located on one of the spring training practice fields.
A very disappointing series to me. Glad it was only six episodes instead of ten.
One Star from The Grandstander.
Up next for me are two series: "Death and Other Details" (Hulu), a ten part mystery in the mold of "Murder on the Orient Express" starring Mandy Patinkin, and "The Regime" an HBO Max series starring Kate Winslet. HBO and Winslet hit it out of the park a few years back with "Mare of Easton", so I am hoping that they can do it again.
Also, for the past few months Linda and I have been binge watching "Seinfeld" from Season One, Episode One, and we are ready to start the ninth and final season of the series. I have come up with some thoughts and comments on the series as a whole as I rewatch it all these years later (can you believe that this show debuted in 1992, over THIRTY years ago?), that I will yak about in this space once we finish the series in the next couple of weeks.